I’m a big believer in the power of visualization.
Need to have a good meeting? Take a deep breath and picture yourself walking in and taking control of the room.
Need to relax? Close your eyes and transport yourself to your happy place. (Mine just happens to involve sun and sand and a nice cool breeze…ahhh!)
On what I’ve realized may be a related note, I have found myself giving “pep talks” to the girls during the day.
“I know you love your panties. You’re going to keep them nice and clean and dry all day, right?”
“We’re going to have a great day today! We’re going to be gentle with each other, and gentle with our toys.”
“We’re going to have a fun dinner together [at a restaurant]! You’re going to sit nice and tall and straight in your chairs while they prepare our food, and then you’re going to wait patiently for it to cool off. It’s going to be so good!”
I can’t say this always works, of course…but I like the idea of getting buy-in from the girls about what we’re going to do and how we’re going to do it. I can then remind them later in the day, “Remember we talked this morning about being gentle?”
Call it a pep talk…call it setting expectations…call it Mommy visualizing the kind of day she wants to have so she doesn’t have to transport to her happy place too often…it helps me get my head wrapped around the day and approach new situations.
And I hope, in the process, I’m showing our girls that we set the tone for our own world…and that makes a happy place for us all.