I’ve noticed it here and there at home, but I didn’t think too much about it. After I got a call from preschool yesterday, though, it’s really caused my heart to hurt.
I can only deduce that my precious Baby A has such an incredibly tender heart.
It usually happens after I scold her about something. It doesn’t happen every time, and it can be the smallest of things. Sometimes it’s after I’ve reached “THREE” (using 1-2-3 Magic, which indicates she’s earned a timeout)…and sometimes it happens at “ONE”.
She breaks down into sobs, and immediately cries, “I need a tissue! Wipe my nose and my eyes!”
To date I’ve chalked it up to her having a very strong conscience. I can remember my mom saying that she rarely had to discipline me; she just had to give me “the look”…or worse, to let me know she was disappointed in me…and I’d melt and straighten right up. I thought Baby A had inherited that trait from me.
The phone startled me yesterday, mid-morning, a couple of hours after I left the girls at school. It was Mrs. G, calling to tell me that Baby A had been crying and they couldn’t get her to really stop. She said that she seemed to be feeling OK, but she wanted to know if there was anything else going on.
[My girls aren’t big “cry-ers”…they don’t fuss very much…and unless they’re hurt, they rarely cry. To my knowledge, they’ve never cried at school.]
The only thing I could think of was A’s more recent sensitivity. I gave Mrs. G. an example, and she then told me that A had asked her to read a book to her, just as they were about to begin an activity. Mrs. G told A that she couldn’t read to her then, as it was time for the class to do a craft. She said that’s when A started crying.
Mrs. G at first said that A looked OK to her, that she was involved in a structured activity, and she was back to herself. She called a couple of minutes later, though, and said A was crying again.
I went to pick her up, and she and I went to an early lunch before it was time to pick up Baby B. She was extra cuddly, but she didn’t otherwise seem upset.
I’ve had a couple of conversations with A since yesterday morning. I hope she knows this intrinsically, but I thought maybe she needed to hear it expressly…I’ve reassured her that I ALWAYS love her. Sometimes we all make poor decisions…there are consequences for those decisions…and we hope to learn from our mistakes…but NO MATTER WHAT, I ALWAYS love her.
Thoughts on how to handle this???
She hasn’t always been this way…in fact, there were times that discipline didn’t seem to phase her at all. I don’t want to be tempted not to discipline her, but I want to make sure I’m not really hurting her precious, tender heart.
I would appreciate any words of wisdom! Thank you!!!